Special letter to Inez on your journey of being a P1

Special letter to Inez on your journey of being a P1

Dear Inez,

Mummy is writing this special letter to share with you my thoughts on your journey and completion as a Primary One student. I can imagine how tough it was for you to transit from a kindergartener to a formal school, the stress that you may need to go through in a change of environment of familiarity to something new (school, teacher, friends, routine, school work) and of course having to wake up early at 6.20am.

You did extremely well in your academic for Term 1 & Term 2 which was awesome. In every journey we take, there will be ups and downs; yup, you dip in your grades in Term 3 but somehow you seem to realize and tried to bounce back in Term 4. We are proud of the resilience spirit you demonstrated and how proud you were when you were awarded the badge in school.

Mummy wants you to know that behind the constant “nagging and harping” is our heart’s desire to want you to always give your 100% in everything that you do; doing things with a spirit of excellence and a never say die attitude. This is above an beyond the grades that we want you to catch in your spirit. Daddy will say “Ya, grades are important but it’s not everything. The character molding and building, the values you have in your life is more important than grades”. And I can sense him trying to chill me down when I see you not trying your best. In that sense, Mummy tends to be more “kan cheong” than Daddy.

You and I have some “hair-tearing, tear dropping” moments as both of us learn together in adjusting to this new milestone of our lives. But hey babe, we survived and soon, you will be promoted to Primary 2.

I have absolute confidence in you and I know you will always try your best as you mature. Whatever it is, please know that we love you very much and have faith in you. We pray that as you continue this journey, we pray for wisdom to be upon you as you study hard, play hard and learn to serve your friends and teachers, living out the values of a Fairsians.

Leaving a picture of your class this year, which just seems like yesterday…

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Fruity Fruity

Fruity Fruity

I’m not sure if you have a “Happy Problem” like me…All my 3 kids love to eat fruits and the only problem with 3 kids is they all love different kinds of fruits and I have to “tailor-made” to their taste each time I’m at the supermarket or the market. The good thing is they do share a common love for some fruits like kiwi, strawberry, blueberry, apples and grapes.

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Inez – Besides the common love of the above fruits, she likes watermelon, honeydew as well. She attempted dragon fruit and did comment that not much taste (ok, maybe the mummy don’t really know how to choose the fruit). One fruit she don’t like is banana, which I guess it’s too “mushy softy” for her.

Alvez – He likes banana, pear but he is one fickle minded person. There was a time that he likes papaya but now he don’t.

Reyez – Out of the 3, he is the easiest in terms of food, he basically eats anything and even attempted few mouthful of durian. Till now, he seldom rejects the fruits that has been offered to him though his fave is probably grapes. What joy it is to every parent to have a not fussy kid who attempts to eat anything and everything.

Actually, I’m kind of happy that the children love fruits cos we all hear of stories of how difficult it is to get children eat their veggies and fruits. I’m sure glad that they follow my genes in eating veggies and fruits…

Kids, I think we need to harp Daddy on his veg & fruits intake..

Celebrate and be who we are

Celebrate and be who we are

I came across this 10 facts by Austin Blood recently:

10 facts every woman should know

  1. Everyone has rolls when they bend over.
  2. When someone tells you that you’re beautiful, believe them. They aren’t lying.
  3. Sometimes we all wake up with breathe that could kill a goat.
  4. For every woman happy with her stretch marks is another woman who wishes she had them.
  5. You should definitely have more confidence. And if you saw yourself the way others see you, you would.
  6. Don’t look for a man to save you. Be able to save yourself.
  7. It’s ok to not love egery part of your body…but you should.
  8. We all have that one friend who seems to have it all together. That woman with the seemingly perfect life. Well, you might be that woman to someone else.
  9. You should be a priority. Not an option, a last resort or a backup plan.
  10. You’re a woman. And that alone makes you damn pretty remarkable.

Some of these facts totally resonate with me & here’s what I think.

  • How can I forget the “bit-sizes” rolls on my cute chubby babies .
  • I choose to accept the praise graciously when I hear that though it’s not often. My prayers is that I will age with grace.
  • Tell me about it.. That’s why we brush our teeth first thing in the morning, I can’t even imagine kissing my Husband without first brushing my teeth.
  • I thank God that no stretch marks have left their footprints even after 3 kids but I do know people who have gone through the heartaches for wanting them. God has a plan and purpose for all and I pray for them to know His plan.
  • Yes, all of us should have the boldness and confident of God.
  • My man save me in certain situations but most of the time, I will think of the solution and save myself first.
  • Ya, there are some parts of my body I don’t really like but hey, we are all beautiful creations by God.
  • I hope to be an inspiration to other ladies in my small way, whether through my Seasons of life, this blog or even conversations.
  • We are always His love, His love towards us is always constant.
  • Celebrate who you are in Him and be who God has called you to be.

 

 

 

 

 

Mummy’s guilt – money sense

Mummy’s guilt – money sense

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Yes!!! I survived the first 6 months of primary school life or rather we (aka Ms Inez & me) survived. I’m glad to say that we are still in one piece although there are moments of hair-pulling of waking up a sleepy girl who refuse to sleep early the previous night or the screaming moments of her not doing her homework at her grandparents place. Did I even mention about the review feedback given by her Maths and English teacher that I have a talkative girl but yet at the same time displaying full confidence at presentation times?

This incident that I am going to write happened several weeks ago and Yes, it took me that long to decide if I should even document it. Worried that I be judged, worried that I am not a great mum, worried that others will look at me with specks in their eyes…But I need to be an example to my children, to teach them that it is ok to be wrong, it is ok to make mistakes and what’s most important is the courage to say sorry.

We have been giving Inez $2 per day as her daily pocket allowance (which in my opinion was just too much, she’s not going to eat a “cow”). Everyday, I will ask her what she had for lunch (to ensure that she really eats for recess and not spend her time playing), so usually, she will have remaining of about $0.60 to $1; depending on what she eats. One night, she came back with > $2 which is very puzzling, so I queried and asked. Throughout it all, I asked at least 3 times the whole story as she was not willing to tell the truth at first as she kept saying, “I don’t know…I don’t know la…”; which obviously pissed me to the max and I gave her a stern, strong lecture which of course let to the “outpouring of the fountain aka her tears.

Finally, she said the truth that her friend paid and she did not give her friend the money. She said since her friend wanted to pay so she just let her pay for it. Seriously, at that point in time, I was super guilt-ridden as I think I was too harsh on her earlier…after all, she is only a 6.5 going 7 year old girl. I REALLY REALLY REALLY felt very bad and apologetic to her. After that, I sat her down and spoke with her, explaining to her why it is important to handle money with care, why it is important for her to pay her friend as we won’t know if the friend’s parents will question her spending of the money. I apologized to her and gave her a tight hug (hoping actually to make myself better) and she promised that she will return the money to her friend the next day.

It was a lesson for her and for me. For her, to learn to be a good steward of God’s money. For me, to not be so quick to jump into conclusions and start accusing a poor child.

Decoding the children’s basic love language

Decoding the children’s basic love language

Recently, I commented a friend’s hash tag that she posted on Instagram and she replied me to ask me to be her “shifu” aka master as she thinks that I am handling my 3 children pretty well…Far from the truth, I told her… What she don’t get to see is my hair-pulling stunts, my shouting matches with them, my moments of breaking down in anger and tears…I’m sure all of you parents know what I am talking about.

Please do not be deceived by their angelic looks.

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I do not know what I do not know but I learn from my mistakes to be a better mum. To all the parents out there, you are the best for your children, please shout the naysayers off! They do not know what they do not know and no one family is the same.

I like to hear and learn from other parents – the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful. I’m thankful to all the mummy and daddy friends that I have in my inner circle of friends and those that I have known from their blogs. You do not know how much a “savior” you have been by reading your blogs and learning from you.

I also like to read parenting books but am very subjective to picking and buying. Now, I have just finished reading “The 5 Love Languages of Children”. It’s an easy, practical book and to a certain extent was a little  self-reflection for me. With it, I think I have managed to decode my children’s basic love language.

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Inez – Words of Affirmation and Quality Time

Her basic two main love language hovers between this two and it could be a tie. She loves how we praise her whenever she did a nice piece of work or when we thank her for helping out. She loves her one to one date with either of us whenever we have the chance to bring her out. On such occasion, she behaves exceptionally well with zero tantrum throwing even when she is tired.

Alvez – Quality Time

Surprisingly for a boy, his basic love language is quality time. I do not know why but he seems to always look forward to his one to one time with us. Perhaps being the middle child, he feels that he needs to be compared to his elder sister yet he cannot whine like the younger brother. During this special time, he will be on his best behavior without the usual “wimpy whining emotions” being displayed.

Reyez – Physical Touch

This boy is the most affectionate in the house; freely he offers his hugs and kisses to all of us, the grandparents and cousins, our close friends and even people whom he met the first time. He is the only one who automatically hugs and kisses everyone before he goes to bed, no one taught him that.

Knowledge is power and I definitely believe that all parents need to be empowered to be a better parent as we learn along the journey.

I’m just a mum

I’m just a mum

What’s your reaction whenever you hear your kid screaming, “MUMMY!!!” To be honest, I cringe at the sound of it as it usually one of the top 3 things that my children needs me to deal with – (1) Find their things; (2) Settle their dispute aka sibling squabbles and (3) Help them with schoolwork and the latter two usually happens.

mum-yelling-at-kidsNot only do the kids yell for MUMMMY, I do get the occasional – “Dear, where is my shoe bag or When is the baby shower or wedding?” kind of questions from the Hub. 

It’s like I am supposed by default to remember everyone’s schedule and stuff. Nope, this is not a ranting but sometimes am just amazed how did I survive all these.

Yes, I’m just a mom… Simple as that but difficult role to play well.

I have other mummy friends with younger kids (toddlers and babies) who asked me for advice occasionally. I do not claim to be an expert and only share with them my experience in the last 6.5 years of parenting. I do hope that they feel more assured and blessed by what I have shared with them. At the end of the day, I always tell them whatever they do, it’s their choice and there is no need to listen to naysayers…Be led by their heart and wisdom…

Frankly, sometimes, such giving of “advice” actually keeps me going as a mum and makes me feel better. There are a lot of times that I felt like such a monstrous, awful,yucky mummy to my kids especially when they are misbehaving or throwing silly tantrums (I’m easily short-fused and triggered, opps…)

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That’s it…I’m just a mum…Period…

Inez graduation and orientation

Inez graduation and orientation

The end of a chapter is the beginning of another chapter. 13 November marks the beginning of Inez stepping foot into her primary school and 20 November marks the end of her completing her pre-school days.

Let me share about the P1 Orientation first since it was the first event. Although it was only a short 2 hours, I felt that me & the Hub has made the best decision by sending her to Hub former alma mater. The orientation was structured, organized and information was not overloaded or too little. I really like the principal as I find her values align with ours. One thing she said that struck a chord with me was “Result is not everything, the character and value of your child is more important”. But too bad, she’s due to rotation to another school. I hope the next principal will continue to carry on her values.

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The only thing that peeve me was the collection of school books. We made a pre-order prior to the Orientation, thinking that it will be faster to just collect it then. The queue for collection was so long as the parents were opening the packets of books to check before they made payment. I know this is no fault of the school but I think they should feedback to the vendors.

Now move on to share about something that makes me both happy, proud but at the same time emo as my firstborn finished her pre-school days.

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The graduation concert started at 2pm and ended around 6pm and her two younger brothers kept asking, “Where is jie jie? Where she haven’t come out yet? Why she haven’t dance?”

I’m glad that she has forged strong friendship with her peers.

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Graduate lor!!!!

Now, let me flood you with the children photos of their concert, I think Inez and all her friends did such a great job, am so proud of all of them.

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She’s the 3rd from the left.

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A shout-out to all her pre-school teachers in her current and previous child care centre, thank you for making a difference in her life, shaping, pruning and molding her.