Yes!!! I survived the first 6 months of primary school life or rather we (aka Ms Inez & me) survived. I’m glad to say that we are still in one piece although there are moments of hair-pulling of waking up a sleepy girl who refuse to sleep early the previous night or the screaming moments of her not doing her homework at her grandparents place. Did I even mention about the review feedback given by her Maths and English teacher that I have a talkative girl but yet at the same time displaying full confidence at presentation times?
This incident that I am going to write happened several weeks ago and Yes, it took me that long to decide if I should even document it. Worried that I be judged, worried that I am not a great mum, worried that others will look at me with specks in their eyes…But I need to be an example to my children, to teach them that it is ok to be wrong, it is ok to make mistakes and what’s most important is the courage to say sorry.
We have been giving Inez $2 per day as her daily pocket allowance (which in my opinion was just too much, she’s not going to eat a “cow”). Everyday, I will ask her what she had for lunch (to ensure that she really eats for recess and not spend her time playing), so usually, she will have remaining of about $0.60 to $1; depending on what she eats. One night, she came back with > $2 which is very puzzling, so I queried and asked. Throughout it all, I asked at least 3 times the whole story as she was not willing to tell the truth at first as she kept saying, “I don’t know…I don’t know la…”; which obviously pissed me to the max and I gave her a stern, strong lecture which of course let to the “outpouring of the fountain aka her tears.
Finally, she said the truth that her friend paid and she did not give her friend the money. She said since her friend wanted to pay so she just let her pay for it. Seriously, at that point in time, I was super guilt-ridden as I think I was too harsh on her earlier…after all, she is only a 6.5 going 7 year old girl. I REALLY REALLY REALLY felt very bad and apologetic to her. After that, I sat her down and spoke with her, explaining to her why it is important to handle money with care, why it is important for her to pay her friend as we won’t know if the friend’s parents will question her spending of the money. I apologized to her and gave her a tight hug (hoping actually to make myself better) and she promised that she will return the money to her friend the next day.
It was a lesson for her and for me. For her, to learn to be a good steward of God’s money. For me, to not be so quick to jump into conclusions and start accusing a poor child.